Dementia patient with wild stories .

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  • Janet Hildreth

    • My mother has some of the wildest stories. Partly true and I guess rest from dreams and part of what she thinks she heard. I try my best just to let her have them but lately she is telling me she is getting gift cards in mail. I know she hasn't. I take care of her finances and get her mail. She said i ask to see the cards and I put them in my purse which never happen. This has been going on for a few weeks and she even brought it up in front of other people at Wal-Mart . Seems she is getting worse and makes me feel like she thinks I'm stealing her money and also hurts my feelings . Also nothing new. Been taking care of her for 3years now. Maybe someone else has the same problem.

    • Janet Hildreth Yes, my husband thinks he has an upcoming  knee replacement and ankle surgery  with his cousin, who is a doctor. His cousin lives miles away from us, is retired, and I think was a general practitioner, not a surgeon.  Fortunately, so far, I’ve been able to reason him out of it. I showed him the scar on his knee where he’d had his surgery. He was shocked. He didn’t remember it at all. I “reminded” him that the orthopedic surgeon said that if he performed surgery on his ankle, it would likely mess up something else. He didn’t remember any of this, but fortunately he trusts me never to lie to him, so he believed me. I think that helps, for now. (He did still think that his cousin was his doctor at one time.)

      What if you bought her some “gift” cards from her favorite eating places or stores to keep in your purse - places you might shop for her anyway? Then when she asks, you can pull one out and ask her when she wants to use it? After a time or two, you can say, “These are your gift cards, but we’ve already used them up.” Or you could buy more.

  • My wife thinks people are coming in and out of our home all the time. Tonight I’m sleeping on the couch in the den because she doesn’t recognize me as her husband ((of 48 years this Feb)  She thinks her husband might return home and find us in bed together, plus she has her own morals. This happens everyday. 

  • My dad keeps telling me the police are coming to get him.  For not paying for a snack, for harassment, for not paying a bill.  I pay his bills and he lives in an adult care home.  It's difficult to talk with him, because that's all he really talks about.  He's on an anti-hallucination drug, but I'm not sure it's helping.  And I am the only one in his family.  Literally.  This has been been the most difficult year of my life.  I don't know what to say to help make him feel better.  At first I just went with it, then said that he was okay.  But now it's all the time.

    • Sherri Hedger I think dementia must be like a dream where you’re facing a problem you don’t know how to solve and you can’t wake up from it.  It’s possible that he just needs reassurance that somebody’s looking out for him. Maybe you could say something like, “Don’t you worry about it. I’ll take care of you. We’ll get it figured out.” Or maybe, “Have the police call me the next time. I’ll take care of it for you.” 

      My husband woke up the other morning wanted me to teach him the math I had been working on. (I haven’t had a math book in the house for 40 years.) He was very frustrated (as was I) and upset that I was unwilling to teach him. I told him I’d be glad to teach him if I knew what math he wanted. Finally I decided to prompt him. I asked if he meant Algebra. He replied, “yes, that’s it!” So I told him there were actually some YouTube videos on that, if he wanted me to find them. That satisfied him and he never mentioned it again.

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