Family Member Doesn't Understand
My brother does not understand about sundowning and basically much of anything about what is happening to our mother and her husband. (I will use SF for stepfather)
My brother does not get the sundowning thing well I don't think he gets any of it. I'm kind of used to it but he gives SF a hard time when he wants to feed his dog or any number of other things and has forgotten he already did. My brother has no patience or tact and I can't get through to him. Does anyone have any suggestions that could help me get through to his hard head? My mother is not well either and I am the referee around here. I need some help, suggestions anything.
This is a matter of patience. Stop referring and use your strength and patience to deal with your brother, lead by example. Ex: Here let’s intervene and pick up extra food without a word. Let parent do it and correct the situation. Show your brother how to mitigate the situation without words. It’s a difficult task ahead for everyone. Remove things from memory as your SF is just doing what’s natural to him. Eyes on and be smarter how to change the dynamics of problem.