I where Diapers day and night it doesn't bother me. I can't help it so I enjoy life. I go to college football games tailgate parties basketball games to the malls I go to eat at restaurants. I take extra diapers with me Wherever I go. I am incontinent of both I just change right away when I have a bm. Just don't let it get to you your still young you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't worry if people see your diaper no one had ever asked me why I ware Diapers. I hope this helps you out.
I'm 64 and have been wearing pull-ups for a few years now due to urinary incontinence and, occasionally, diarrhea. I was embarrassed at first thinking that people could "tell", but they really can't as a general rule. I much prefer pull-ups to diapers, they give me the psychological boost of feeling like I'm wearing underwear.
If you can think of it as support for a medical condition, just like any other medical condition requiring support, it eases the mental discomfort. Hope this helps.