Melody Reed - I am kind of small. I used to buy CVS brand ex-small pull-ups (they were perfect for me), but they stopped selling them. Now I buy the Goodnites diapers for female kids (they also make a male kid type). The L size accommodates 68 to 95 lb people, kids sizes 10-12. The XL size accommodates 95 to 140 lb people, kids sizes 14-20. If your daughter doesn't mind having stars or cupcakes on her pull-ups, try them. You can get them in the USA at drug stores and supermarkets by the package of about 17 or by the box of 34.

Melody Reed What is your daughter's waist size?

Melody Reed And have you tried the new plastic backed Depends Maximum Protection w/ Tabs? Their S/M size is a singular size for both small and medium and has waistbands, and may be a better fit.

Scott Keyser 

Around 32"

Melody Reed Tranquility has a few that may help like the ATN and the newer EliteCare diapers they have. Depending on fit vs leaks, other good ones I have had are the Seni series like the Super Quatro and the Super Quatro Plus(Amazon). The Depends Protection with Tabs though are one of the best cuz you can adjust any of the 6 tabs for a better fit all around

Melody Reed I use the MegaMax from NorthShoreCare for nights.

Betty Mills I did in fact take part in the Seni Free Sample recently for the cotton-backed, Super Quatro Adult Briefs "with 4 Tape Tabs". I will in fact be doing a separate review of them after I have had a chance to purchase an actual package/case of them for better review. The 2 samples were great, don't get me wrong, but to get a real feel for a diaper, one has to use them pretty much 24/7 or as needed for the specific case *i.e. nighttime use* and I feel it's best to test the Free Sample, and if you think it is a good enough test, go for a package of 10+ to get a better feel for them on a more regular basis, and if all else fails, give her a final test on a half case/case *usually depends on a specific company sending 30-96 being half case or full case* and get a good full run out of the product. If, by then, you haven't got a proper feel for them, move on to another diaper.

In my history, I have tried many different companies, brands, distributors, etc, and I'm still on the hunt myself for a better diaper. Not necessarily jumping headfirst into the ABDL category with the 4500ML capacity diapers, but something less discreet and for personal, medically required use, not "entertainment purposes" like ABDL products with cute prints and whatnot are normally aimed at. I just want a non leaking size 34" diaper, plastic-backed, that hugs all 360 degrees of the hips/groin, and does everything possible to prevent leakage, including standing leg guards and stretchable waistbands, which is why I actually promote the 6-Tab Depends Protection with Tabs Diaper that they recently re-did.

Betty Mills As a victim of sexual abuse from toddler to age 9 by my biological father, I have spent my entire life in diapers. Needed for both forms of incontinence, urinary and fecal due to irreparable, permanent damage on both sides from the trauma. With the inability to feel anything coming in the first place, its sometimes hard to notice when a product is "over-capacity" and can lead to embarrassing incidents in public that are beyond one's control. Not having the muscle strength or "sensation" to notice when I "have to go" basically leads to just an "open gate effect" where nothing in my body actually tries to hold pee or feces back and have no control or muscle recognition to even do so in the first place. This leads to having to limit being out in public, making one's life rough and lonesome without a real way to go out in public and enjoy life as a "normal person without incontinence of any form" would.

Some have "IBS" to blame, forms of irritable bowel syndrome, that's understandable they have to stay home/near a toilet and can't really go anywhere. Sometimes not having to do a #2 for up to 0-24 hours "apparently, based on experience", it is literally impossible to know when to be ready for it, especially in my case. Everyone uses diapers for different medical purposes, some of us have more restrictions that need a better diaper. Basically, it would be nice to see an adult diaper created that has the same 360 degree fit/protection that i have seen baby diapers have and hold in the past.

Melody Reed those depends tab's sound like they would be perfect for her or you can try some of the abdl diapers

Anthony Aber    What are abdl  diapers????

Melody Reed Adult Baby Diaper Lovers. Generally heavily padded diapers holding usually 4500 to 6000mL of fluids with no need for booster pads in most cases. However, these diapers are generally spendy and not medical approved.

Scott Keyser LIke you I can't really tell when I'm eliminating.  It just happens.  I pee into the front of the brief and soil in the center and going up to rear.  Soemtimes this wakes me up and sometimes I can sleep through it.    I don't sleep with other people and use gary pants over briefs so smell is contained.

Andrew hola  I was punished as a child for wetting the bed, mother not knowing the truths of my father til I was 9. And even then did not want to help or aid in the situation. Forced to steal diapers or mow lawns to purchase myself, they thought later, even after the sexual abuse, and the bedwetting both, I must be growing into some fetish of sorts. Them spanking me and taking the diapers and punishing me, then leading to me wetting my pants and bed again, I was accused of intentionally doing it as a form of arrogance towards my parents. They couldnt understand that without me wearing them and having to hide it from them, it happened anyways. My brain and body does not work the way most do. PTSD from the memories of the abuse have continued to make my condition worse with no chance of it stopping. Doctors tried everything from blaming me to deciding to help me but in the end, it is all psycho-neuro related and is not something that pills have been able to fix either. The pills they thought would work, weakened my bladder even more over the 6 weeks and the damage was even more irreparable than the original trauma. To save face, the doctor stopped offering to help and started signing paperwork to get the state to help provide supplies. Literally always had urinary/bowel problems, getting the people around you to understand and not make fun of you and whatnot is the hard part.

Scott Keyser I was not allowed to change my diaper and wore a jumps suit.  My dad cleaned me in morning after a bm.  He also shaved me and applied cream

Scott Turner (Farmer) - I cannot express how badly I feel for what you were forced to endure in your childhood. All the best from now on.

Scott Keyser 

Scott Keyser I've worn these to work for whole day of pee but if I deficate I want to change.

They feel good walking when full.  The sides are crinkly and peopel have noticed.  My hearing isn't that good so I often crinkle.  But plastic diapers are all I've ever worn!

Andrew hola I crinkle, so what lol. Yeah, same thing. One person asked why it looked like I was wearing a diaper, and I started to tell her it wasnt like I had a choice but she got embarrassed/offended and walked away 🤦🤷

The pullon underwear has no legit way to stop the leaks actually and in these cases, it is generally recommended to use tab style briefs instead, allowing you to secure the legcuffs better and more snug to prevent leaks. Ones with standing leg guards inside the leg cuffs help too.

Lynne Murray I see that it's been a while since I reviewed the posts here.  Sorry to be so tardy in replying to your question.  In case you haven't seen my reply to Scott Keyser, Sam's Club Member's Mark Total Protection Adult Adjustable Briefs work best for me and cost only 47c apiece.

Andrew hola Lynne Murray I have often sat on a hard surface and leaked soil and urine.  I soil sitting and laying down.  THe whole seat is full.  loose stool is harder to deal with.

Bruce Barrett While we wait for a reply, can I ask, if you don't mind, what have you tried so far?

Scott Keyser Sorry to be so slow to answer your question.   I've tied most of the ABDL diapers because I figured they would have the capacity and fit to prevent leaks.

But the crinkly noise of the plastic-backed diapers prevents my discrete need since my friends are all "vanilla".   And I'm not into the AB kink. I'm just a DL because of frequent incontinence.

What works best for me is Sam's Club Member's Mark Total Protection Adjustable briefs.  In addition to fitting well, being cloth backed and therefore quiet, they hold 3 to 5 bladders-full.  And they cost 47c each.

Bruce Barrett   I wear gary active briefs for many years

Scott Keyser Do ou work still?

Andrew hola   men generally wear plastc taped briefs.  for us who deficate we need plastic briefs.  even when I had bowel control, I was unabel to remove briefs in stall and just went in my diaper.  I cannot get hard either wich is easier when I'm changed.

Andrew hola disabled actually. PTSD 

Andrew hola So what brand and model is your razor? 

I can barely reach my butt to wipe it. Thus, I can't imagine safely shaving it. But I have the same problem with hair holding onto the dirt so I'm interested in the concept. TIA.